I am a People Pleaser!
I am glad to finally admit it and get that off my chest.
I am sure you are thinking, "What's the big deal?" Well, it is a big deal. It's hard work. It's never ending work. It can sometimes be too much. Too much for me to handle.
A few things about me . . . .
I want everyone to be happy.
I would rather do without something than to see someone upset or unhappy.
I never, not ever, want to be a problem to anyone. Because of that, I have a hard time letting people do things for me.
The worst thing that could ever happen to me is to find out I have disappointed someone - especially someone I care about.
Why?
I am people pleaser.
It's who I am.
Have you ever been to the circus and seen the clown that juggles the bright colored balls.? Then he calls for someone to throw in something else, maybe another ball. Then finally, someone throws in the chainsaw. And he just keeps on juggling. Just keeps all the balls in the air going around so smooth. Even the chainsaw that could cut his arm off. That clown is me. I try to so hard to keep all the balls in the air. Even when I have been given a chainsaw, I just keep on juggling. Keep on smiling. Keep on please'n the people.
I want the world to be a happy place. A stress-free place. A place of pink balloons and rainbows. I place where unicorns feed right outside my bedroom window and the bluebird always sings. Alas, after 36 years on this earth I am still learning the hard lessons of life . . .
I can not please all people, all the time.
This makes me sad. This makes me feel like I have failed in some way. I know that at sometime, somewhere, I have let someone down. I have not done everything I could to keep them happy. But no matter how bad I feel, how much work this is, I will keep on being a people pleaser. I will keep on trying to keep everyone happy all the time. I will read my Bible. I will pray more and talk to God. I will be reminded again that this world is not perfect. Sin is in this world. Sin makes this world dirty and sometimes hard to live in. Jesus is the only one who can make everyone happy. He is the only one who can make things perfect. So I will lean on Him and trust Him.
He is the Rock, his work is perfect. . .
Deuteronomy 32:4a
As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him.
2 Samuel 22:31
Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.
Isaiah 26:3
17. And whatsoever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. (because He made me) 23. And whatsoever ye do, do it heartly, as to the Lord, and not unto men (I don't need their approval, I have God's), 24. Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ (not myself and not others or what they think).
Colossians 3:17; 23 & 24
with Cristy's remarks in parentheses
I will always go back to being a people pleaser because that is who I am.
How about you? Are you a people pleaser? Do you try to keep everyone happy or do just let the chips fall where they may?